"Meditation practice isn’t about
trying to throw ourselves away and become something different.
It’s about befriending who we are already." Pema
Chodron
Loving-Kindness Meditation and Metta
Practices
Metta
is the Pali word for love. The meditation technique begins with
developing self-love and then extending outward to develop openness
and compassion
for everyone.
In her book on Loving-Kindness, Sharon Salzberg writes: "We spend our lives
searching for something we don’t think we have, something that makes
us happy. But sometimes the very love and happiness we want can be found
just by sitting down. The path to true happiness is one of integrating and
fully accepting all aspects of our experience. We must move from trying to
control the uncontrollable cycles of pleasure and pain, and instead learn
how to connect, to open, and to love no matter what is happening. By following
this path, we learn to develop skillful mental states and let go of unskillful
ones. We align ourselves with an expansive vision of what is possible for
us, and we use the tools of spiritual practice to sustain that vision."
Pema
Chodron adds: "When we talk about
mindfulness and awareness, we're not talking about something
stern, a discipline
that we impose on ourselves so that we can clean up our act. It's
more that we practice some sense of loving kindness towards all
the
details of our lives. We realize that we're always standing at
the
center of a sacred circle. Our life's work is to wake up, to open,
be curious and develop some sense of sympathy for everything that
comes along."
"Maitri is the basis of compassion. It's a
Sanskrit word that means 'unconditional friendship with oneself.'
Its about
feeling at home with your own mind and body. And we can use meditation
as a tool to cultivate Maitri."
Books Available from
Amazon
Loving
Kindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness, by
Sharon Salzberg ($12) A popular American meditation teacher and
cofounder of the Insight Meditation Society, Salzberg gives lucid,
easy-to-follow meditation instructions in this book. And guided
meditations on audio tape: Loving-Kindness
Meditation: Learning to Love Through Insight Meditation ($13).
The
Wisdom of No Escape And The Path of Loving Kindness, by
Pema Chodron, ($10) and the same book in a pocket edition: Awakening
Loving-Kindness, ($7). This book
is a series of talks by the American Buddhist nun who is among
the most popular modern meditation teachers.
Training
the Mind and Cultivating Loving Kindness,
by Chogyam Trungpa, ($10). This book introduces
and explains 59 slogans that can be used to breathe life into your daily meditation
practice.
Good
Medicine: How to Turn Pain Into Compassion with Tonglen Meditation,
by Pema Chodron (CD, $17) Sixteen recorded talks and guided meditation
practices in Pema's charming, intimate style.
A
Heart as Wide as the World, by
Sharon Salzberg, ($10), also available on cassette
tapes ($13). Specific instructions
for meditation
Links